10 Ways to be a Virtuous Woman & Wife: A Christian Woman's Guide to Godliness (Updated & Revised!)

"A Virtuous woman is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her...

She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household...

Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: 'Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.' Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." - Proverbs 31:10-30.

What is a Virtuous Woman and Wife?

A Virtuous woman and wife is confident without being rude, kind without being weak, and proud without being arrogant. She is elegant from the inside out and her kindness and beauty is reflected in her soul. Her presence alone demands respect for she is a woman who is authentic and always true to God and herself.

A woman of virtue is comfortable in her own skin and does not seek attention or validation from others. She knows how to have a good time while maintaing her self-respect and the respect for others in every situation.

A virtuous woman is the epitome of class, elegance, grace, and modesty.

Characteristics of a Virtuous Woman

A virtuous woman has full and complete faith in God and in His Son, Jesus Christ, Our Lord and Savior, and she is completely devoted to the both of them. She also understands that being a woman of virtue is more important than wearing designer clothes, expensive perfume, and nice jewelry. She is less interested with the world and more interested in submitting to God (Romans 12:2).

Here Are Ten Ways to be a Virtuous Woman:

1. Always be respectful ~ No matter the situation, always show respect to others (1 Corinthians 16:14). Remember, how others behave reflects them. How you behave, reflects you and God! We are humble servants to the Lord our God therefore we should strive to represent Him at all times (2 Corinthians 5:20). A virtuous woman can handle constructive criticism and accept feedback from others. She owns her own flaws and weaknesses and is willing to work on them, but she also acknowledges her own God-given abilities, gifts, and strengths and humbly seeks God's will in using them.

2. Dress Modestly ~ A virtuous woman always looks her best, whether she is running to the grocery store, or attending a black-tie event. She dresses modestly, elegantly, and with dignity at all times, because she is a woman of God! (1 Timothy 2:9-10).

(For tips on how to look elegant, see my article: Eight Must-Have Items for Every Christian Woman.)

3. Be a good example ~ Set a good example to those around you. People tend to study a virtuous woman, especially younger girls and other women. They will not only admire you, but will also learn from you and want to seek God in Jesus Christ earnestly, just as you have done (Titus 2:3-8). People will also appreciate the positive influence you set for others to follow. A virtuous woman is contagious!

4. Be confident ~ A virtuous woman is confident in her own skin and walks without fear (Psalm 27:3). She neither needs nor seeks the validation or approval from others. She knows her self worth, because she has been "...fearfully and wonderfully made," by our Heavenly Father (Psalm 139:14). Whatever she sets out to achieve, she has faith in God that she will be successful in doing so (Proverbs 16:3).

5. Stand in your truth ~ A virtuous woman always stands up for what she believes in, even if she stands alone. She will also fight for the injustices of others withouth fear, especially for those who cannot speak for themselves, because she knows she is fully protected by God (Proverbs 31:8-9,Joshua 1:9).

6. Be Resilient ~ A virtuous woman is resilient. She can bounce back from difficult situations and overcome obstacles without breaking nor folding. Bad times do not keep her down, they only build her back up and make her stronger (Isaiah 40:31). A virtuous woman never complains (Philippians 2:14) or plays victim, but always strives to have a heart of gratitude (1 Thessalonians 5:18).

7. Control your temper ~ A virtuous woman should always control her temper. "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires." - James 1:19-20.

   
   

8. Do not be quarrelsome ~ As women of God, He has instructed us to not be quarrelsome (2 Timothy 2:23-26). We should be kind to everyone and speak with gentleness (Proverbs 15:1) at all times and in every situation. We should also never use profanity or vulgarity (Ephesians 4:29). And of course, a virtuous woman is always honest! "The Lord destests lying lips, but He delights in people who are trustworthy." - Proverbs 24:26.

9. Overlooks an insult ~ A virtuous woman is wise and is not easily offended (Proverbs 19:11). She knows how to ignore the ignorance, and sometimes the wickedness, from others by trusting in God, remaining silent, and, when needed, by also removing herself from the situation (Exodus 14:14). Remember, how people behave and what they may say has nothing to do with you, but everything to do with them. So don't take it personally. However, you should never allow people to disrespect you nor should you ever tolerate any kind of abuse from anyone. We should always practice self-love, in fact, it is a prerequisite to loving others. Jesus said: "... ‘Love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these.” - Mark 12:30. As you can see, self-love is not only a necessity, it's mandatory. This commandment extends the love you have for yourself to others. You cannot properly love others if you don't love and respect yourself first. Also please understand that self-love is not selfish. Jesus didn't say to love only yourself, but to "love your neighbor as yourself".

   
   

10. Does not Gossip ~ A virtuous woman should never gossip! Infact, the Holy Word of God instructs us to avoid people who gossip. "A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid anyone who talks too much." - Proverbs 20:19.

Independent Yet Unafraid to Allow Her Husband to Lead

A virtuous woman of noble character is independent in her own happiness, even when she is married and in a relationship. She is constantly learning, growing, and evolving as a person. She is never clingy or dependent on someone else (including her husband) to make her happy, because she is capable of doing that all on her own. A virtuous woman of noble character stays busy using her own hands, mind, and spirtual gifts that God has given her. She has her own thing going on while still maintaining her primary and sacred role as a wife and a mother (Proverbs 31:10).

A virtuous woman is also not afraid to submit to her husband under God the Father, in her Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, because she is strong in her faith and is completely devoted to God's Holy Order in Christ Jesus  (1 Corinthians 11:3-4). As a woman of God, she stays faithful and loyal to her husband at all times and in all circumstances (Exodus 20:14), because she has full trust in God where both her marriage and her husband are concerned (Proverbs 3:5-6).

Intelligent, Private, and Completely Devoted to God

A virtuous woman is wise and intelligent. She nutures and renews her mind daily by reading the Bible and God's Holy Word (Romans 12:2). She is devoted to, and more interested in, pleasing God the Father than in pleasing the world around her (1 John 2:15-17).

And last, but certainly not least, a virtuous woman is private and lives her life with discretion (Proverbs 11:22). She minds her own business and understands there is sacred protection and blessings from God in living a quiet life (1 Thessalonians 4:11-12) . She does not overshare her personal life and business to those around her or on social media.

Author’s Bio

Isabella Boston

Isabella Boston is a Wordsmith and the creator of Bella’s Attic Studio. She is well-versed in copywriting, articles and research, and medical content writing with a focus on traumatic brain injury (TBI), autoimmune disorders, and inflammation within the body. She is a diarist and the author of Passion of Flames.

When Isabella is not writing, she enjoys reading, fashion, learning new languages, and spreading God’s Holy Word.